Comments for So, Where's My Girlfriend? http://www.sowheresmygirlfriend.com The thoughts of a contemporary gentleman of leisure... Wed, 11 Aug 2010 04:09:14 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 Comment on Dear Ann Landers… by Oh-dee http://www.sowheresmygirlfriend.com/?p=1256&cpage=1#comment-2116 Oh-dee Wed, 11 Aug 2010 04:09:14 +0000 http://www.sowheresmygirlfriend.com/?p=1256#comment-2116 Mr. Rainier! Blown away with the speed and precision with which you perfectly dissected this age-old problem. I also died a little bit having relived those horrible, life-sucking, awkward situations (well, they always seem that way in the moment)...from both rejector/rejectee positions. Awesome writing style. Damn! The romantic in me hopes that your reader goes for it. You're right. Life is so very precious and short. For those who might have to turn someone down (I'm currently experiencing an unrelenting Facebook stalker - I have counted now about 7 or 8 polite "No thank yous" plus umpteen lies about my availability so obviously you pay for it when you are not direct)... Being a person who grew up avoiding every risk possible, I found that as a female, you can sometimes cheat by acting coyly. I think we call this "playing dumb". I know it's unethical and it feels particularly numbing but I swear it works...most of the time. You do feel empty afterward but sometimes you can expertly avoid the pain of rejecting someone by flying under the radar and acting almost, I dunno, asexual. I wonder if guys use this strategy too if they cannot dish out an "I'm not interested"? Maybe this will help those who have trouble saying "No" or who are deathly afraid of ensuing hostility. Mr. Rainier! Blown away with the speed and precision with which you perfectly dissected this age-old problem. I also died a little bit having relived those horrible, life-sucking, awkward situations (well, they always seem that way in the moment)…from both rejector/rejectee positions. Awesome writing style. Damn!

The romantic in me hopes that your reader goes for it. You’re right. Life is so very precious and short.

For those who might have to turn someone down (I’m currently experiencing an unrelenting Facebook stalker – I have counted now about 7 or 8 polite “No thank yous” plus umpteen lies about my availability so obviously you pay for it when you are not direct)…

Being a person who grew up avoiding every risk possible, I found that as a female, you can sometimes cheat by acting coyly. I think we call this “playing dumb”. I know it’s unethical and it feels particularly numbing but I swear it works…most of the time. You do feel empty afterward but sometimes you can expertly avoid the pain of rejecting someone by flying under the radar and acting almost, I dunno, asexual. I wonder if guys use this strategy too if they cannot dish out an “I’m not interested”?

Maybe this will help those who have trouble saying “No” or who are deathly afraid of ensuing hostility.

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